In short, there’s absolutely no right answer. Whether or not you “should” have sex with someone the first time you meet them in real life after getting to know each other on a dating app depends on several factors, but ultimately, it boils down to how YOU feel and what YOUR values are.

Purity culture has influenced many people into thinking that we need to preserve ourselves for X amount of time before having sex with somebody we recently met or are attracted to. Frankly, that’s just not realistic these days! You can do whatever you want to. You make your own rules. You decide what’s best for you. So remember that whatever decision you make is perfectly fine.

Are you on the fence? Consider asking yourself the following 10 questions to dig deeper and help you decide whether or not you might want to sleep with them on the first date:

1. Have you discussed your intentions?

Have a conversation about your intentions and what the two of you want after the first date or sexual experience. We’re all adults. Don’t be afraid to speak up about what you want and where you stand on your decision. Express your intentions, needs, and wants before, during, and after the sexual experience. If it’s all about sex, have fun!

Check in with yourself and your partner to ensure you’re both on the same page prior to heading to the bedroom (or the backseat of the car after dinner) so the experience is enjoyable and fulfilling for everyone involved. The most important thing is to decide your own intentions about this person, whether it’s going somewhere serious or it’s just a summer fling.

2. Do you feel like they respect you?

Avoid sleeping with anybody who doesn’t respect you or the boundaries you establish. If they don’t respect you outside of the bedroom, then they’re probably not going to respect you in the bedroom either. Celý příspěvek →