Someone who lies, someone who is manipulative, someone who gives you the ‘silent treatment‘ during a conflict are all examples of red flags in a relationship.
The above may sound logical in black and white, but recognising these red flags in your own relationship or when you are dating someone is not always so easy. Especially if you viewing the relationship with rose-tinted glasses and may not see the obvious signs.
In this guide, psychologist Judith Klenter explains how to recognise red flags in a relationship or while dating. In this article, we will explore:
What Are Red Flags?
A red flag is a warning signal, says psychologist Judith Klenter. “A red flag is behaviour that indicates that a (potential) partner does not suit you. That behaviour can be a number of things, such as someone who constantly talks about an ex-partner on the first date.” Are these red flags the same for everyone? Yes and no, Judith believes. “There are red flags that are, or should be, fairly universal. Think violent behaviour, being overly jealous or controlling and any behaviour that has a tendency for abuse or manipulation.”
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